~love just is~

Unless you are a therapist, a spiritualist or someone who has completely understood the way this world revolves, there is a good chance you believe that you have understood ‘love’ but lack ways to easily articulate it. I don’t mean to down play you in any way but I wrote this especially to empower you with thoughts that have been around for generations and ways to explain what love truly is.

Many of us have associated ourselves with love but ever since our teen years we have misunderstood being ‘in love’ with the actual ‘true love’. We can recognize this when we tell our boy-friends or girl-friends that we’re ‘in love’ with them and when they are not around, we get upset; on occasions when they are with others, we compete for attention; and when they do something different from what we like, it troubles us. We even quantify love by saying ‘I love you more than you love me’. While this seems very cute in its own way, there is a big difference between what we express in the relationship and what love really is.

~the real difference~

We have not understood ‘love’ the way it really is but have experienced something called ‘in love’. ‘In Love’ is to receive love from the other person and is a dependence based relationship. In this relationship, we are attached to our own happiness but this happy feeling comes from another person’s presence. This is more obvious when they are not around us. We miss them and feel low. In truth we only miss them for the love that they give to us. By being dependent or attached in a relationship this way, we are setting ourselves up for pain. We resist any attempt to remove this dependence or attachment and we know how hurtful it is when we don’t get what we want from them (its an addiction). We innocently forget about what makes them happy and sometimes we act possessive taking away the space they need. Barely do we realize that these problems are within ourselves first; that we are deficit in some way and that their presence seems to complete us. These people that we depend on for happiness could be anyone, a boy or girlfriend, a best friend or even a role model. But while this may sound wrong or terrible, it really is not. In the real sense of the word, this is a stepping stone to understand how to be emotionally independent and how to truly love. Everyone walks this path.

~true love~

When we truly love someone, we only give love, not expect to receive any. We accept the person for who he or she is. This is the same as the unconditional love we talk about between a mother and her child. There is never a reason; we just love. When the time and person is right, we feel it deep within ourselves and nothing known physically to us can ever explain it. True love or unconditional love is unconditional acceptance of a person no matter what their actions dictate; but it does not mean unconditional acceptance of their actions; just the person. Please don’t read only into that line, there is more. We know that people change and their actions evolve over time. We have faith in them because we see in them a ‘them’ that they themselves cannot see. It’s just a matter of time before they figure themselves out through the many good and bad things they do; and trust me, they will consciously do almost every thing that today’s society or you considers bad. However, Love, in a relationship, is accepting them for who they are while expecting them to be the best they can be for themselves; not for you. Loving them is never about you; its about them. When they want you to let go, let them go, let them grow; your part is done. If you are looking for someone to love you, just remember the quote by Gandhi, “Be the change you wish to see in the world” & like will attract like. When you learn to love unconditionally, only then you will easily attract another who will love you unconditionally.

~what love isn’t!~

Love isn’t detachment or attachment but a fine balance between the two and knowing when to do either. Love never has reasons; but reasons have love. Love isn’t dependence but freedom to grow. Love isn’t denial but acceptance of self and self emotions. Even hate is love; its someone who’s upset because they didn’t get the love they needed; they are just asking to be loved. Even Jealousy is love, someone wanting the source of love and happiness that you have.
However, due to haste, desperation or just bad sources of information, we remain confused and continue creating reasons for why we should love. Magazines, surveys or compatibility ads are main sources of our wealth of toxic information. Loving someone for a reason is not true love for the other person. Reasons are conditions which when satisfied makes us happy. It just shows that we are in love with that reason and not the person. When we love the reason or that condition, we indicate that we are loving ourselves instead and are trying to make ‘ourselves’ happy; not them. This is the same as making use of them to make us happy; but the reality is that we need to fill our own voids first before we can truly love someone else for who they are. It’s even more scary when we choose to love for a reason and then over time those reasons vanish; and we’d find ourselves hating that same very person. We know this when we use words like, ‘I loved the old you better’. But this is not the end of it all; it’s just one of those jump starts we need.

~how do I learn to truly love someone?~

It’s easier said than done. Learn to love yourself first without going outside for love. When you truly love yourself will you be able to truly love others. There are so many articles on-line that teach us to truly love ourselves. Here are two articles worth reading and two tracks worth listening to.

http://ezinearticles.com/?How-To-Love-Yourself-Indulgently-And-Unconditionally&id=781515
http://www.healthyplace.com/Communities/Relationships/serendipity/topics/topic016.html
and finally India Arie with her track “Video” (You Tube)
http://www.pandora.com/music/song/india+arie/video
and Whitney Houston with “The Greatest Love of All
They all say one thing. We need to first accept ourselves for the way we are with all the flaws we have. No one is perfect, no one will ever be. Everyone starts from the bottom of the ladder to get to the top with respect to accepting themselves the way they are. Financially rich people face the same problems we do. Underneath all that perfection is always imperfection; behind all the glitz is misery that even money won’t solve. We all walk the same path and help is always there. The best part is that you don’t have to make any sacrifices in loving your self.

~on unconditional love and divorce in non violent relationships~

When we finally learn to love unconditionally, we are much more comfortable in our relationships and we easily accept our other halves as people who are struggling to understand themselves. When a need for a divorce occurs, it would be from their side as they battle to search for their source of true love. True love starts within ourselves and at home; but if a divorce helps, do what it takes to help yourself.

~What is sacrifice? Is it associated with giving up?~

Sacrifice truly means ‘to make sacred’. By giving up something you really want, you are instead only hurting yourself; you are not making any relationship sacred! Even though you may give something up for someone, it is not sacrifice unless you are truly happy inside and without resentment. Anything short of this is truly superficial. Its only after you learn how to truly love yourself, making sacrifices becomes so much easier and accurate to its definition. Let me explain.
Sacrifice is never about giving up happiness but gaining even more happiness for yourself by making others happy. When you unconditionally love others, seeing them happy is what truly makes you happy. If they find happiness in what you have and you truly love them, giving it to them is really easy when you know that your happiness comes from within you and no where else. Sacrifices becomes very simple and no different than a side effect of true love. Sacrifice always originates from self when self is ready and should never be imposed or expected of you.

~when should I not sacrifice?~

When you don’t want to!
The act of sacrifice has been glorified but it has lost its meaning over time and lately associated with giving up for a long term benefit. But there is never any long term benefit gained from performing it in guilt, greed or force. In most cases, follow your instinct; in some where it is confusing, its best to wait and let the passage of time convince you. Do whatever it takes to balance between keeping yourself happy and doing things to keep others happy. Wisdom doesn’t necessarily come from the elders; but in some cases guilt surely does; don’t let them ever guilt you or force you. Draw your boundaries and follow your heart. And for those who prefer to be associated with ‘logic’; follow your mind!

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~define love!~

Love is to accept unconditionally!
I love you = I accept you unconditionally! It is a choice.
I am in love with you = Will you accept me unconditionally?

P.S. “I love you” is “I love you to make you happy” and not “I love you to make me happy”;

tag: Love and Sacrifice Misunderstood

 

originally posted at evansnf.wordpress.com

Short answer first:
Spiritualists are way beyond self and hence self respect. This doesn’t mean that they don’t respect themselves. On the contrary, they highly do. The only difference is, they don’t do it the way regular people are seen doing it. Regular people like you and me are always hurt by certain actions of others especially loved ones. We get offended for the most part & take those actions personally. We then tell ourselves that no self respecting person will fall for this twice and hence do whatever is needed to protect ourselves from it happening again. This protection, the little firewall we build, is what we’d like to call self respect. I’m sure you recall this quote: Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.
Spiritualists on the other hand, are not hurt by other’s actions, they instead understand that those actions are rooted within the confusion in that person itself. We act emotionally out of control while in confusion, we react defensively in confusion, and all we are really trying to do is sort out this confusion. Unfortunately, while we’re trying to figure out ourselves, others get offended or may judge us.

Spiritualists do not judge people. According to them, a person is not bad, only the action or reaction is. It is a result of them sorting confusion in the best way they know how. They understand these people only behave irrationally out of ignorance of a better way. Lessons in life eventually mature people to evolve out of such ignorance and negativity transforming them into calm rational individuals. Everyone changes on their own time and spiritualists respect them and their present limitations; the eventual outcome is apparent. This understanding stems from the quality of unconditional love and acceptance. As quoted by Mahatma Gandhi,
“Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.”

and now in detail…
Spiritualists were like you and me at some point in their past. However, today they have not only understood self, they have understood others and how the universe works. They focus on evolving everyone else in any which way possible (irrespective of time or action). If you think about it from a tainted point of view, Mahatma Gandhi and his non violent methods also lead to questions of self respect. In his time, we would think, ‘No self respecting man will let himself be humiliated like that’. A spiritualist instead says, ‘No self respecting man will do unto others as what he would not have done unto himself.’ It may takes years of getting humiliated before the oppressor realizes his act of oppression, hence the illusion of being humiliated did not go in vain. The humiliation is eventually seen in the oppressor through guilt and regret, which is a welcomed start to self evolution. One can attempt to see that the person causing you pain is only showing you your weak spots needing evolution; it’s never a personal attack; just an opportunity to learn within the bigger scheme of life. The point of this all is to learn what unconditional love really is.

~self empowerment~

Spiritualists have understood how to be self empowered. In a self empowerment workshop you can learn the reality that “no one can make you feel what you don’t want to without your permission” and when you feel pain towards an action performed by yourself or others, you are taught to rationalize and improve your emotional intelligence by either standing up to the adversary or gracefully absorbing the impact. When you realize that you can control the way you feel towards everything around you, you find yourself healing not only to your own self but even to others. Self Empowerment is the only start and solution to rational understanding of self and others.

~reincarnation principle in understanding self~

In a universe where we constantly re-incarnate to learn the lessons of life and self, the universe also gives materialistic power to those needing, wanting or obsessed by it. This is one positive answer towards understanding how some morally undeserving people climb ladders. The point of this universe is: Do what ever you need to do; take as much as time as you want to; we (universalists) are sure that you will evolve out of the confusion within your ego while you try to pursue true happiness. This behavior is clear in the pattern when we search for satisfaction in material, power, people etc. True satisfaction comes from understanding that material, power, people etc never contribute to happiness. Happiness comes through being in a state of absolutely no need and it comes from within. Incidentally, the only way we learn this is by trying to find happiness in material, people or power etc and each one of us has to go through the process of initiation spanning over lifetimes.

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~What are the lessons that we need to learn over lifetimes?~

I would suggest a quick read on Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs with regular cross reference to the different levels in Chakras. I used this search to pull results. Maslow, a psychologist whose findings very closely matched the chakra system, independently found this pattern and abstracted it to all humans. In this physical universe, we have 7 levels of initiation before we completely understand happiness. It starts at the lowest level in Maslow’s needs to the highest level of transcendence. The path is fixed for all participants and the growth spans over multiple lifetimes. More on this in a later write up.

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~is there a quick how to solution?~

No; pain through experience is inevitable, but you can learn, understand and find true inner self through a process of learning what unconditional love is. There is plenty of text out on the internet to help you learn what unconditional love is and how to do it. Just remember that we are all conditioned. We’ve been taught to judge people from the very start to protect self. Barely do we realize that some of these rules for self protection are nothing but a double edged sword. While we continue to explore ourselves, our limits and life in all, in the fear of being judged, we hide our true selves from each other and even from self. This is the same as lying, even worse, lying to yourself.

~if I hold back pain longer, does it make me stronger?`~

Everyone has a break point and you will break eventually. The trick is to dissolve the pain instead of pushing back. Your strength is determined by your ability to understand pain and grow out if faster than you previously did. Just like a dam over capacity, we all have limits; the faster we let the water out, the lesser the chances of dam damage. Let go and let live!

~in pursuit of happiness~

If you do not believe in destiny, then you do not believe that you want to be happy. Happiness is your destination if that is where you naturally head out to or not. No matter what you do, your intent is happiness for yourself or others. For the smart asses who wish to oppose this view by saying, “I want to remain unhappy”, it is interesting to note that being unhappy makes them happy. Happiness is inescapable and so I welcome you to the destination of destiny.

~how to live a karma free life?~`

Read this: http://www.healpastlives.com/future/rule/ruescape.htm

(as always, I will enhance this write up or remove what I find too preachy!)

The reality is, not everyone is spiritually awakened or aware of the highest purpose of self in life. As we continue mundane tasks on a daily basis without question, any attempt to resist dogma usually comes with the usual disapproval. However, for those that have managed to break free from monotony and dared to question with absolutely no fear, it will be to no surprise that answers are available. It’s easy to point out that skeptics still remain unaware of the matrix and constantly battle themselves to prove otherwise. Unfortunately they don’t realize that every battle fought is part of an inner war against acceptance of themselves.

The following terms bear similar meaning with reference to spiritual awakening:
Awakening, Awareness, Conscious, Rising of the Kundalini, Escaping the Matrix, Realization or Enlightenment.

 

~what does it feel like to be spiritually awakened or enlightened?~
In all cases whether you are a believer of a higher power or not, there comes a time in your life when certain events absolutely convince you to realize otherwise. This is where you are on the verge of a complete spiritual awakening. A lot many strengthen their belief in the traditional version of a separate ‘God’, but for those who believe that there is more to this, read on. 

Everyone’s experience of a spiritual awakening is different. Some talk about tingling sensations, some have visions, some fall into trance, some see signs, but it’s very normal when nothing happens except a surge to know more about yourself, life and eternal meaning. Spiritual awakening is nothing but knowing through your own experience that there is more to you and your association with the universal consciousness than you’ve been taught by dogma. This is a very personal experience and not everyone understands it. Also, the signs of awakening to me could be a regular itch in the butt for you. Everyone has a different experience altogether.

 

 

 

~the other end of the spiritual awakening tunnel~
If you are impatient to know what the other end is like, you will be in for a bit of a surprise. To be spiritually awakened and active leaves you in a state of giving instead of wanting, a state of peace where your mind is relaxed and secured. By this time you would have realized what unconditional love is; you will find your true inner self and your purpose in this universe, specifically this lifetime. You will understand & accept that life is planned and not as uncertain as you once thought it to be. You develop strong qualities of kindness, compassion, empathy & acceptance. You help more, you care more, you appreciate more and you wish for nothing in return. Incidentally, all that you need will fall into your lap as you work your way to help others. Some grow out of the 5 physical senses and become truly multi sensory leading to astral projection and exploration of parallel universes, after life, past life, etc while the rest live grounded in the physical universe helping everyone local. This is something that I’ve been focusing on doing in a non intrusive way. Over time you will find your true purpose and the way in which it unveils. Hang in there.

 

~what are signs in the spiritual sense?~
I’m referring to signs from the meta-physical world that continue to re-affirm us as we glide on our karmic path (your destined path). Some consider signs are random events that we connect to make ourselves feel better, but a true spiritualist sees these as confirmations and assurances of successful karmas. It starts off as subtle messages from your spirit guardians or angels in the form of thoughts. These thoughts bring focus on a specific event with relevance to your personal life. I’ve had interesting experiences where even a word in a message suddenly stands out to relate to something close to my heart. Some signs are re-occurence of numbers, events, names, people etc. Signs come in various ways and will only make itself obvious when you least expect it. Apart from personal experience, I would suggest to watch the movie ‘Under the Tuscan Sun’ and the part where the bird in the house poops on the main actress Diane Lane (Frances). This was a sign to the owner that Frances was the right person to sell the house to. There have been plenty such events in my life to reassure me of the concept, but when I constantly look out for them, they do not show up! Patience is a virtue.

 

~events occurring twice~
Another part of the enlightenment process that was quite visible to me was the experience that certain very specific events occur twice. I haven’t been able to understand it completely, but I have a good feeling that its related to reversing karma in a way to re-experience it all over again. To me, its like a second chance to relive it and do it right. I remembered the movie “Click” and the Universal Remote, and how Adam Sandler gets his second chance. Figuring this one out is going to take a while.

 

Also, check this article out; it has good details.
http://www.livinginmyownworld.com/50-signs-of-spiritual-awakening/

And as always in the words of Buddha,
Do not believe in anything simply because you have heard it. Do not believe in anything simply because it is spoken and rumored by many. Do not believe in anything simply because it is found written in your religious books. Do not believe in anything merely on the authority of your teachers and elders. Do not believe in traditions because they have been handed down for many generations. But after observation and analysis, when you find that anything agrees with reason and is conducive to the good and benefit of one and all, then accept it and live up to it.

 

If you’ve read my previous writes on spiritual subjects such as black magic, holistic therapy, spirits & ghosts, but have always wondered about what role divinations like astrology or numerology play in it, this write should spell out some simple explanations.

~our planned universe~
With events in life always seeming random, there is a small chance you would believe that this universe is planned to even a single drop of rain at the highest karmic level. In our understanding of this (as spiritualists), there is no occasional coincidence or randomness. Everything is ordered and mathematically structured. Life, death, love, pain, glory or even spirit evolution in the afterlife is not a part of unplanned events. To me, this realization came through consciously observing patterns in a large number of coincidences / events that are usually overlooked. Turned believer from skeptic, I can now see how this universe is planned to evolve in a simple, structured and orderly fashion. There is no retrogress. If you accept this thought, then understanding the underlying concepts of divinations and the calculations within it gets simpler. Skeptics argue that this is wishful thinking and it is human nature to see patterns and hence anything can be strung together. I agree with them. Only based on repeated patterns do we derive consistency in valid explanations. The pattern of an apple falling has to continue to validate the theory of gravity. However, in a spiritual setup where your life is different from that of others, only you are capable of noticing patterns pertaining to your experiences. No two human lives follow the same experience path. They are all individualistic and how one derives its results will differ person to person. If its any consolation, this karmic path that you glide on was created by you prior to making your presence physical.
Other synonyms include synchronicity, destiny, life plan, life path or existential plan.
~concepts behind divinations~
In a mathematically planned setup, any particle that enters or exits the setup follows a mathematically planned path. To highlight this in a real world scenario, observe this; when a diamond is cut, it is done to allow light rays to follow a preset path. The outcome is the ability to glitter in brilliance. Even if the light ray enters the diamond at an angle, it will be guided within the diamond in a way that will bring out the same level of brilliance. These are deliberations of its creators for obvious reasons. The same concept applies for our universe; paths have been planned for the purpose of self evolution. This knowledge of a pre-planned universe forms the base to prepare abstracted data for all its participants and this data is used to elaborate the science of divination. Entering this physical universe as a light ray is the equivalent of being born. Choosing a date to be born is the equivalent of choosing your personal value or belief system. All dates, time and location of birth in a planned universe depict certain self evolutionary flaws that need to be overcome with age, experience and karma. This is similar to a Cartesian coordinate denoted by a point along the x and y axis; your birth date along with the latitude and longitude of your birth place determines the start coordinates of your life path and your initial personality traits. This information is a prerequisite in every form of astrology or numerology known.
~how were divinations developed?~
Just like any prediction made today by you or me, it is made on the basis of past observation. Consistency in observation of the same event with the same base participants lead us to believe that the event will occur exactly as it has many a times before. If all our lives we were to observe people more closely, identify consistent patterns, base them off certain fixed points, we would have created a science on those patterns. This science of patterns is how calculations and predictions in certain divinations originally came about. Some other forms of divinations involve interpreting through various objects but usually involves necromancy. Necromancy is the same concept in shamanism where you receive information for what you seek with guidance from members of the spirit world, usually spirit guides. These forms of divinations are usually more accurate and specific and is absolutely derived without any form of calculation.
~how is divination used to assist spiritual self evolution?~
Read this link as well. Divinations are recommended for karmic guidance. Using it serves the same purpose as using maps. It contains advice on how to reach a preset target of happiness. As we live and evolve through our thoughts and actions in personal and business endeavors, we make decisions with the hope of success. Sometimes, we’re at crossroads where obvious choices are not clear anymore and seek further guidance; or we need reassurance about the choices we have already made. The knowledge found in the data banks of divination assist in these goals. Collected and cataloged accurately over a period of thousands of years, the wheel need not be reinvented but just interpreted correctly. However, sometimes answers are fuzzy and obvious forms of divination do not assist in securing self assurance; these moments are best understood via past life regressions or trusted psychics. Most media based divinations are abstracted for a larger audience and always will seem too general to believe. Personal forecasts are closer to the real thing but I usually recommend against high levels of dependence on divination. Based on personal experience, after using numerology, I-Ching and coins, I have realized that in my personal karmic path, I had to eventually learn to depend on my instinct, my own thoughts, my own assessments and intuition to steer on my karmic path. I turn to divinations only when I am honestly out of ideas.
~stock markets & divination~
Try it. I can guarantee you’ll see interesting results. It’s like buying a car to cross an ocean or a ship to sail the desert. They both travel distances only when used appropriately. Divinations are used for spiritual self evolution, not fueling greed. Results through divinations will not necessarily give you what you want, but will guide you on what has already been planned for you by you. As the Dalai Lama put it, ‘sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck’. All forms of unethical use is definitely discouraged through divinations. No pain, no gain.
~What’s the point if I can’t make money using results of divination?~
In this spiritual setup, money and material is an optional byproduct of successful self evolution. Wealth is not a primary driving force but a result. However, as the story goes, human greed makes money our primary goal. We tend to lose site that the primary goal is happiness and when one is truly happy, one doesn’t need money or material; one doesn’t ‘need’ at all, all one does is give away both time or money to those who are truly in sincere need.
~trusting sources for divination~
For the most part, I will encourage you to use pre-existing downloadable software that may come at a premium. Good life changing information does come at a price; a price of valuing someone’s hard work. I personally use Decoz.com for self assessed Numerology and sometimes glance at astrology readings on Yahoo.com or MSN.com. I use I-Ching software from this site called MysticBoard.com. If you are new to this, try to use multiple free sources for a few months before committing to any form of payment. Time and analysis always help make good choices. If you are in a desperate situation looking for help, it’s clear that you are vulnerable to make mistakes. I suggest to only use trusted sources at this point. Like any market, this market is also a buyer’s beware. The simple rule of thumb is that good people do good business and they believe that its not just about making money but helping people. This concept applies in any field of work, even divinations. If someone isn’t humble enough and promises a lot, the chances they will deliver is equally less. My wife performs psychic readings for free but only to those who she sees truly at the point of sincere need.

 

(this piece of work will be enhanced as thoughts and ideas manifest)

Originally posted at evansnf (dot)wordpress(dot) com under Meta-Physical Info & continued from Part I

In my last post, I classified different forms of alternative therapy into two main categories. While you familiarize yourself with information on these subjects, its always great to understand it at its core without spending too much time. In the early stages of spiritual learning, we usually delve into many practices associated with ancient ritualistic or Shamanic beliefs. A lot many claim the powers of gemstones, sun catchers, smudging with dried sage, etc, due to their ancient spiritual connect. Even though these concepts diminished in the past, it has now regained its spot in the holistic market place. There is a good reason for why they believe it works.

~’they believe’~
Belief is the only ingredient common in all therapies. If you believe that it will work, it will. However, over time, it makes sense to believe in the ultimate life force; the consciousness behind any therapeutic belief: ‘Yourself’; i.e. your true inner self. Some holistic healers may deny this but the secret really is that these therapies only work when ‘you’ believe it.

~reality check on different forms of therapy~
As you make your way through understanding holistic forms of therapy from various people and sources, it will be like walking into an auto mall. Every car is the best car and every car salesman wants you to have it. Like always, what matters is how you feel when you drive it. The only way to know this is to either try them all or stick with what resonates with yourself and your daily life style. If you like music, then its easy to point out that sound therapy will work well for you. All these forms of alternative therapy concentrate on healing using the non physical energy system – your emotions.

~synopsis of each therapy~
(in alphabetical order – use CTRL-F to quickly find topics)
In the last post I classified the different forms of therapy. Here is a quick run down with its core essence laid out.
Thumb Rule:
a. Anything that helps de-stress and soothe the mind is considered therapeutic.
b. There is a fine line between therapeutic use and addiction. Addiction issues when recognized can be resolved using these forms of therapy as well.

AcuEnergetics:
Same as Chakra Therapy in a nutshell. Its also known as Harmonics Energy Balance. Therapists use a concepts in Chakra therapy to heal. The basic principles are the same but with a different name. Read on Chakra Therapy in this post.

Acupressure:
In the first part I mentioned that our astral / emotional body is attached to our physical body at various points along its length. These points have various names as chakras, pressure points, vortexes, psychic centers, meridians, energy centers, etc. Acupressure is associated with applying physical pressure to these points and transferring emotional energy, chi or prana through fingers unblocking the blocked chakra. Hands are considered healing agents in every form of physical contact therapy. Pressure points are gateways that channel healing energies to the main chakras. You would need to understand the concept of chakras before this entirely makes sense. Try this link healing.about.com for some basic clarity on chakras.

Acupuncture:
This is very similar to acupressure; the only difference being the use of pricks via pins or needles at the same points. This is also called Meridian Healing. Medicine.net has a great FAQ on this subject.

Aromatherapy:
Its the therapy where the use of scents from essential oils are used to heal certain common ailments. This educational site offers some great information on some more basics and is worth a quick glance.

Astral Projection:
Healing through Astral Projection or Astral Travel usually works by just understanding the experience of the non physical universe. The other term for it is ‘Out of body experience’ or soul travel. This is the phenomenon of your soul or mind leaving your body. Some use Astral Projection to perform a Past Life Memory investigation which can be very healing. It helps to understand how one may suffer certain trying disorders in spite of medication. For the most part, it helps with building confidence in the greater purpose of life and karma.

Auric Healing (Aura Healing):
Auras are created by the energies from each chakra. The strength of an aura reflects the emotional IQ of the person. Better the Aura, better the E-IQ. The basic principles for healing are the same as Chakra Therapy. Read on Chakra Therapy in this post.

Chakra Therapy (Chakra Balancing):
If you have read about chakras from part 1 of this post, you would understand that the mental or astral body has 7 chakras along the length of a person’s physical body. Each of these 7 points are associated with emotional and physiological illness that represents a physical organ or gland. Before a physical illness appears, an emotional illness is considered to be the cause of the fall in bodily defenses. Chakra therapy is the foundation of every other therapy. Further information can be found from the combination of both these sites Astral Mate & The School of Tantra. On a another note, there is a correlation between Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs and The Chakra System (highlighted by Norwick Gray).

Cognitive Therapy:
Also called Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, the focal point is tuning emotions and hence the outcome of thoughts. The targeted outcome is to change the way we think. Most therapists use this method to help clients empower themselves to solve their emotional issues. It goes by many names: Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, Rational Behavior Therapy, Rational Living Therapy, Cognitive Therapy and Dialectic Behavior Therapy. The National Association of Cognitive Behavioral Therapists have a quick read on this subject. This form of therapy does not specifically aim at resolving physical illness.

Color Therapy:
The same as chakra therapy but using colors to heal. Certain colors tend to magnify certain emotions or the lack of it. By understanding the need for certain colors you understand personal issues that one faces and its physical consequence. Gemstones therapy is a subset of color therapy and color therapy is a subset of chakra therapy. For example, if your favorite color is blue, it indicates that you might have issues speaking up or being open and frank with people. Here’s a link to a chart in Chakra Therapy; each color representing physical ailments and emotional symptoms. Please refer to Chakra Therapy in this post for additional info.

Crystal Healing:
Read on Gemstone Therapy in this post.

Energy Balancing:
Read up on Chakra Therapy. Its the same base concept.

Exorcism:
Please read up on Spirit Releasement Therapy in this post.

Expressive Therapy:
A form of therapy that is targeted to clear blockages in the 5th or throat chakra. The 5th chakra represents innermost creative expression. Expression can occur in any creative form; through writing, dance, vocals, music, painting, craft, sculpting, architecting, etc. The Wikipedia has great examples on this subject.

Food Therapy:
A process using healing properties of various natural foods to cure ailments. I dug out this site (natali.co.uk) that has an illness to food matches.

Gemstone Therapy:
The concept of gemstone therapy arises from the theory of color therapy. Color therapy in turn associates its roots from Chakra therapy. This article clearly describes the roots of Gemstone Therapy. However, these forms of therapy creates dependencies on external objects; its best to resolve emotional issues associated with each unbalanced chakra to completely balance self.

Gestalt Therapy:
The concepts in Gestalt Therapy served to evolve into NLP. See NLP in this post. More history here @ wikipedia.

Guided Imagery
Have you heard of a therapist who asks you to imagine lying on a beach.  And from there on, he or she tells you to imagine a further sequence of steps as narrated by him/her? This is guided imagery.   Visualizations that use the imagination to heal both mind and body. It boils down to restoring balance in every chakra using the third eye or 6th chakra (ajna). Since the obvious form of modality here is using the mind to heal, it brings focus to Chakra therapy as the base foundation for identifying symptoms, emotional causes and implementing fixes. Eupsychia has some good information on definitions and how-to.

Harmonics Energy Balancing:
Read up on Chakra Therapy. Its the same base concept.

Hecatean Projection
A type of astral projection where one gets projected into a negative emotional area made of fear, hate, jealousy, anger and other remaining deadly sins. It is definitely not therapeutic. Read up on astral projection for more information on how projections can be therapeutic.

Energy Healing with Chi, Ruah, Prana:
Chi, Ruah or Prana refer to the same energy: ’emotions’. Since Chakra therapy is about healing using emotions, please refer to chakra therapy for details.

Herbal Therapy:
The use of twigs, leaves, flowers or the entire plant to create healing teas, soups, powders or just skin patches. Ancient Ayurvedic Medicine from India and Herbology in witchcraft are such forms of herbal therapy. Herb to disease matching can be found here (herbsandcures.com).

Homeopathy:
Just like the other forms of therapy, this form of therapy is targeted at the same emotional energy system in the body. The National Center for Complimentary Medicine has explained this concept pretty well. Homeopaths use the concept of ‘like attracts like’, which is the ‘Law of Attraction’.

Hypnotherapy:
Using hypnosis to heal mental and physical conditions. While most sites explain it as using alternate states of your consciousness to heal, these consciousness could be your own, or your Higher Self (spirit guides / guardian angels), or vampiric consciousness that linger from a previous incarnation. New age movements see this as your past consciousness (egos) or other vampiric consciousness creating blockages against self healing. By engaging these consciousnesses and walking through causations of their own emotional blockages, the emotional block in the client clears. As per chakra therapy, these forms of emotional blockages cause physical illnesses; and by clearing these, physical balance is eventually restored.

Landscape Therapy:
Watching natural serenity in pictures, photo slides or in person can have a very soothing effect on your mind. A combination of the sounds of nature, its panaromic views and the natural smell of the earth does relax one’s mind. This is achieved through slide shows as well. That’s all that this form of therapy is – a relaxation technique engaging the visual senses through color combinations and visualizations.

Light Body Activation:
Same as Chakra Therapy in a nutshell. For more details on how this therapy is practiced, read up on an article by Laughing Life coach and Merkaba.

Massage Therapy:
Any form of physical contact therapy aimed at relaxation through overall body massage falls under this category. The names & techniques are aplenty. A consolidated list can be obtained here at Wikipedia.

NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming):
Mostly used in Professional and Self success management, this self empowerment technique is a very high level and neutral form of therapy used to perform self analysis and self rectification. This is best for skeptics who do not wish to engage in understanding spiritual therapy as the core of every alternative therapy. This form of therapy is not designed to heal physical illnesses either. The best source for NLP info is NLP.com. However, if you have faced a road block after using NLP, I suggest investigating the spiritual aspects that form the core of this training.

Past Life Regression Healing (PLR):
This is hypnosis on ‘steroids’ (without the use of any steroids of course). If you haven’t familiarized yourself with the concepts of hypnotherapy in this post, please do before moving forward. PLR is consciously knowing that you have lived in previous lives hence using hypnosis or trance to go back into those lifetimes. The healing effect comes into play when one understands his or her karmic debts from a past life. Past life negative karma’s can cause emotional blockages in any or many of the 7 chakras. By understanding and overcoming these emotional blockages, one can heal the physical and mental self. A clear and simple read can be found here. The site HealPastlives.com is considered to be one of the best sites detailing Past Life Regression Healing.

Pranic Healing:
Read up on Chakra Therapy. Its the same base concept.

Physical Fitness Form of Therapy:
A therapy involving Endorphin release through cardiovascular exercises. It may be assisted with weight training. I personally use the site exrx.net to learn and plan my routine.

Reflexology:
This falls under Massage / Touch therapy and attempts chakra balancing by applying pressure only at end points – hands, feet or ears. Wikipedia hosts a great article on this subject.

Shamanic Healing (Shamans):
Healing through the knowledge of the village medicine men or tribal witch doctors. They use a variety of healing methods that include herbal therapy, soul retrieval (past life regression healing), gemstone therapy (color therapy using gemstones), exorcism (using hypnotherapy) and spirit assistance (assisting consciousness in the afterlife). In the true meaning of the word ‘shamans’, alternative therapists are shamans as well. Its just a broad term encompassing various forms of therapy.

Sound Therapy (Mantra Therapy):
This form of therapy is closely tied to Chakra Therapy where the 7 musical notes (or mantras or chanting) assist in healing various ailments. Try this site (elivia.com) for detailed information and downloadable music notes. On another note, any sound or music that puts your mind at ease comes under this form of therapy. Most musical tunes have all 7 notes. You don’t really need to buy any expensive relaxation CD that claims wonders. Other forms of sound therapy are listed here (biowaves.com). It also include binaural beats from Monroe’s Institute of Hemisync Research.

Soul Retrieval:
It is healing using Past Life Regression. Please read on PLR in this post. A great note on soul retrieval by another author can be found here.

Spirit Releasement Therapy (Spirit Intrusion):
Also known as exorcism, this therapy involves identifying spirit consciousnesses that affect your current life. Known mental illnesses associated with these are schizophrenia, personality or identity disorders. The intruding spirits are identified and confronted through hypnotherapy aided with concepts in past life regression. Shamanic healers or past life regressionists are known for healing this. I’ve had fairly good success with the help of psychics as well; although the information was a bit obscure and left for interpretation. With two schizophrenics in my family, I took my wife’s psychic help to identify the intruding spirits causing them pain.
The spirits that linger around are dissatisfied emotional remains of physical people from your previous lives or in some extreme cases ‘wandering spirits’ that may not be related directly to you. Wandering spirits are easier to release and this can be termed as spirit assistance ( I wrote about spirit assistance in one of my posts here.) However, releasing spirits from your past lives require a little more work; work mostly on your part. These spirits are normally upset with you for a reason unknown to you in this lifetime; past life regression gives great insight on this reason. In most cases, these spirits are past life egos of your own consciousness itself; i.e. unsatisfied version(s) of your previous life. Schizophrenics are one example of this. Their unsatisfied spirit of a previous life constantly intrude and try to quickly resolve what has remained as unfinished business before they had physically died then. In all cases they use negative ways to achieve this; these include hate, anger, pride, self denial, greed, jealousy or any form of an insecure belief. Then there are those affected with personality disorders like MPD or DID. These folks are usually involuntary spirit mediums who host other consciousness in their physical body without control or knowledge. The only way to release these spirits in these cases requires complete the karmic debt payback. The time frame can be as long as paying back house loan payments. Hang in there and seek help from past life regression hypnotherapists on what you may have done in your last life to undergo this pain.

Talk Therapy:
It is just talking about your emotional issues. Please read up on Cognitive Therapy in this post. The definitions vary at various sites but if you look at all of it closely, you will find the commonality.

Taste Therapy:
Therapy through taste has not yet been researched to a great extent. As stated, there are 6 tastes: sweet, bitter, sour, astringent, spicy hot & salty; this page talks about taste therapy and its association with healing.

Tantric Sex:
Sex in general is the most commonly played sport among humans. I hope we all agree that in the mammal world alone, it is the common form of ‘physical’ evolution (excluding artificial means). Fortunately, sex assists in mental evolution as well. Tantric sex is exactly what this is all about; mental / spiritual evolution through sex (i.e. maturity through sex). During a tantric orgasm, emotional energy or chi / prana flows up your spine inducing a fulfilling effect; which is why some have chills right after or during orgasms. As the chi rises, it clears blockages in all chakras having a healing effect. It is a self transforming process with the aim to finally achieve the art of making love in its purest form. The sole intent evolves into pleasing the other by attending to their every sexual and emotional desire. At every age, tantric sex heals, vitalizes and rejuvenates mind and body. Discovery Health has a good 5 page article on techniques and effects. I highly recommend this read.

Therapeutic Imagery:
Same a Guided Imagery listed in this post.

Touch Therapy:
This is the same as Massage Therapy listed in this post.

Visualization:
Its the same as Guided Imagery listed on this post.

Yoga (Hatha Yoga exercise):
The ancient Indian forms of physical exercise with poses targeted to heal specific illnesses. This site
(Truthstar.com/yoga) has some great information on specific exercises/poses to heal specific physical problems.

~Final Note~
The only road to the ultimate higher purpose and potential is to understand how you are associated with Unconditional Love; the ultimate nirvana. Here’s one instance on how to practice Unconditional Love. All forms of alternative therapy assist in sustaining self at peak performance while attempting to attain this new height.

Enjoy your journey!

Originally posted at evansnf (dot)wordpress(dot) com under Meta-Physical Info

In 2006, I wanted to know all about these methods of spiritual healing. I didn’t know where to start and even though every text I read was helpful, I was a bit confused with the mass amounts of information on this subject. Over the past year, I put the pieces together and found out that a lot many of these have the same meaning. I finally realized that just like we have many cultures in many countries, we have many words for the same concepts. I will try to make sure that this read clarifies terms while you embark on your spiritual journey.

~a quick note on Skeptics & Quackery~
Skeptics call these methods “quackery”; they haven’t understood it in its entirety and insist proving spiritual existence using physical means. Laws of Physics are clear, we cannot physically touch an apple we create in our mind; but; we have a mind. Spiritual healing uses the mind and involves understanding it and its emotional properties. Its healing the mind first to eventually heal the body.
~What is Chi, Ki, Qi, Prana, Ruah, good astral energy, positive etheric energy, auric energy, paranormal ectoplasm, positive psychic energy, life force, positive thought force or White Magic?~
These are all synonyms for the same non physical energy commonly known as positive emotions: i.e. love in the form of compassion, generosity, humility, empathy, kindness and patience; love with absolutely no expectations, no boundaries and no preset limit. There may be more synonyms that I may have missed but its pretty much the same thing. These energies are generated by the soul or what we know of as a “happy satisfied mind”. Spirit Guardians, Spirit healers or Guardian Angels are one such example of non physical sources. When we perform healing, we are basically transferring all our positive energies onto our target person using thoughts of emotions mentioned above. These emotions have an effect on the target consciousness (i.e. person) by way of relief, mental peace, restoration of emotional balance and harmony. There are plenty of sites on-line that can help with ‘how to’ on performing it. Techniques on various sites will vary just as french fries at different fast foods. What matters is what works best for you.
What are dark energy, energy vampires, emotional baggages,
psychic vampires, telepathic draining? – a sympathetic view
Apart from the fact that these are all synonyms, this negative energy is sourced within less evolved minds who constantly remain dissatisfied. They can be physical people or dissatisfied ghosts (or disembodied spirits). They seek stability & satisfaction from emotionally unbalanced relationships or materialistic pleasures. Most barely realize the impact this dependency has on their own well being. A large part of the human population falls under this category. They have more of a vacuum effect with other’s energies without realizing it. If you are a target, you would have felt being drained mentally and physically around these people or in relationships having such emotional baggage. While they mean no harm consciously, they need to learn that positive energy comes from within self. They need to stop depending on outside sources for temporary happiness and focus on growing permanent inner strength.
A friend of mine constantly depended on me to help her out with certain chores. She wouldn’t say anything much but I would end up doing it for her while I was around her. It was obvious that she would think it; I would pick up the signal and being the good friend I was, I would do it. I avoid being around her too often only to let myself not be taken advantage of through psychic means.
Note that some folk’s karma is to convert negative minds into positive life forces either by helping them heal themselves or exactly the opposite. Helping is a tough task, every situation differs and requires decisions on instinct. Even a divorce in a draining relationship is sometimes ‘helping’. The universe is sometimes cruel only to be kind. Read more on this subject @ Dr Bruce Goldberg’s site or Oprah.
~What are Chakras? Is it related to acupuncture, Reiki, Yoga,
acupressure or meridian healing?~
The mind is 100% emotional (logic is also an emotion) and our minds come with a physical body, the physical body and mind (also called the astral body) are attached at various points along its length. There are 7 major points of attachment known as chakras (wheels in sanskrit), while the rest are minor points or mini chakras. In acupuncture/acupressure, these are known as pressure points or meridians. We know these exist because we feel pain or tingling sensations at these points when aggravated. On a psychological forefront, these points represent various forms of emotional issues (personal insecurities). Ancient Indian, Chinese and Japanese research have stated that physiological problems and diseases are first sighted as emotional issues and visible in your Aura. If emotional issues remain unresolved, they manifest into the physical form in terms of illnesses. Just like us, even ghosts or spirits feel too. They suffer from the same types of emotional problems and seek the same level of healing or satisfaction as we do. Reiki healing is conceptually the same as a combination of Chakra therapy and Yoga. I’ve listed out some common denominations within this area of healing in the second part.
For details on Chakras, please refer to other sites like this one.
~What is Feng Shui and is it related to Vastu Shastra?~
Once again ancient Indian & Chinese research have found ways to maintain emotional & physical states of a person at optimal levels by planning or adjusting a living environment. These are classified under the art of Feng Shui and Vastu Shastra. Its best not to read into these text too literally. It is meant to mean that there is more than one correct way of doing it once a base foundation is setup. Everyone is different and we all have our own preferences. One must plan one’s home layout paying the most attention to ‘feelings’ after budget issues are sorted out. Its the ‘Follow your heart and feel good about what you do’ concept. Some text in these books can be confusing. When they say that Chi or Prana should flow freely within your environment, this basically means that your environment must be setup in such a way that is very therapeutic and relaxing. Statements like ‘no sharp corners’ is not because it obstructs Chi in the way we think it, but because it causes bruises that affects mental peace, and that’s what they mean. It is vital that when you walk into your house you feel ‘home’; a place of endless tranquility and calmness. I’ve had the opportunity to witness my folks insist on literal meanings from these texts; only to cause a loss of Chi (love) through arguments on how to place a vase. I sincerely hope the intent of the task is not lost during the course of action. Furthermore, you can tell a person’s character by the expression in a house. It is noticeable in very subtle ways. The more pleasant the emotional experience, the more pleasant the person behind their veils. Like attracts like.
~Why does alternative therapy not work for everyone?
Is it related to my karma?~
The simple answer is Yes. Your spiritual healing can be started or accelerated by understanding and relieving your karmic debts. As per the law of attraction, every action has an equal and opposite reaction. As you sow, so shall you reap; and karmic debts are your pending actions to heal others or self from the pain of your past actions. Karmic debts can be from a current life, past life or both. Bringing closures to them with actions of love will help close these chapters and move on to spiritual enlightenment and healing. To understand your karmic debts from past lives, I’d suggest past life regression therapy from a hypnotherapist.
~How do I understand ways in which
Alternative therapies are classified?~
There are so many terms out on this subject that it gets very confusing when you first dive in. This note will help ease that confusion a bit. I’ve classified and clubbed synonyms together.
Umbrella Terminology
The following terms are synonyms and include every form of therapy that do not use conventional medical methods (allopathy):
Alternative Healing, Alternative Medicine, Complimentary Medicine, Etheric Hygiene and Holistic Therapy
There are 2 types of Alternative therapies listed below. I’ve listed out popular ones.
Physical Level Therapy:
  • Therapy induced via physical means by third party:
    Acupressure, Acupuncture (or Meridian Healing), Homeopathy, Light Body Activation and Massage Therapy (or Touch Therapy), Reflexology & Tantric Sex (unforced sex)
  • Self Therapy for the 5 Physical Senses and physical body:
    Sound Therapy, Color Therapy, Landscape Therapy, Taste Therapy, Aroma therapy, Physical Fitness Therapy, Herbal Therapy and Yoga
Emotional or Mental Level Therapy:
  • Therapy induced via third party person (friend, therapist, certified hypnotherapist, counselor or psychologist):
    Cognitive Therapy, Gestalt Therapy, NLP, Expressive therapy, Guided Imagery (Therapeutic Imagery or Visualization), Hypnotherapy, Past Life Healing (or Past Life Regression), Shamanic Healing, Soul Retrieval, Spirit Releasement Therapy (or Exorcism) & Talk Therapy
  • Therapy through Self Meditation:
    AcuEnergetics (or Chakra Balancing, Chakra Therapy, Energy Balancing, Harmonics Energy Balance or Aura/Auric Healing), Helionic Therapy (or Astral projection, Ethereal projection, OBE – out of body experience, Hecatean Projection Therapy), Pranic Healing (or Ruah Healing, Healing through Chi)
  • Therapeutic healing through object belief:
    Crystal Healing, Gemstone Healing
~What therapy should you use?~
For effective healing most use a mix and match of both physical level and mental level therapies. We have a mind and a body; it makes obvious sense to heal both simultaneously.
~What therapy do I use?~
I normally engage in Expressive Therapy (writing & hacking software), Talk Therapy (therapist & friends), Sound Therapy (music), Past Life Healing, Landscape therapy and Physical Fitness Therapy (gym, cycling, hiking & sports). This is inclusive of a healthy diet and eating habits (5 – 6 small meal portions a day).
~My quick note on Healing through external beliefs~
To believe in yourself is far more powerful than believing in external objects like crystals, gemstones, rocks or idols; but if it works for you, please continue.
Part II deals with details of underlying base foundations in every form of popular healing.
Peace!

Originally posted at evansnf (dot)wordpress(dot) com under Meta-Physical Info

Just like you, I looked everywhere for simple logical answers and not opinions. After months of researching various resources and attending courses, I know I have the simplest answer. All skeptics call these sort of concepts as delusional, paredolia, hallucinatory, illusions, fantasy, dreams and imagination; but if you “believe” or “know” otherwise, here is a short, simple and concise definition.

A ghost or spirit is a mind without or outside a physical body. That’s it.

Spirits, apparitions, angels, psyche, ego, id and souls are the synonyms of the same.

My wife and I deal with these on a daily basis. We have assisted over 50 spirits move into the light or back to source. After 13 years of witnessing my wife’s psychic experience and mediumship, I have been able to completely understand and write about this. The text here is divided into multiple short easy reads.

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~What are they?~
They are earth bound spirits and in almost all cases they were unhappy at the time of their departure. The terminology used to describe them differs in different cultures. They, just like us, are sentient. Each personality is unique just as the different people we know in the physical form.

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~the human concern on ghosts~
Ghosts/spirits have been termed as good & bad by those who are unaware of its lost meaning. Most good spirits are really positive emotion energy sources and parade as guardian angels or spirit guides. They constantly help people evolve into positive minds. These guardian angels or guides could be anyone you have known or not known from your living life. They are there to serve you when you truly make efforts to help yourself or when you need to perform an act of selflessness.
The ones termed bad aren’t really bad in the sense of the word, but just insecure, lost, less evolved and selfish. Some call them energy vampires, evil spirits or versions of Satan or the devil. These negative spirits are usually the dissatisfied ones unconsciously seeking help while in self denial. As they are selfish in their ways, they are easily attracted to selfish acts by you or me. Its the law of attraction: Like attracts like. This is one of the reasons why its wise not to call spirits for personal help unless its an act of selflessness. Your guardian angel may not help you keep them at bay once you receive help from such negative sources. Its a price you pay for being selfish and interfering with the “results” of your actions/karma (i.e. interfering with your destiny). I suggest watching “The Sixth Sense” and paying keen attention to the script. All scripts are written very carefully; each sentence specifically revealing crucial details about the concept. Some Hollywood script writers and movie makers are already aware of this as a reality and quite a few movies have their scripts tuned to put the point across in a subtle format.
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~spirit assistance~
Helping ghosts or spirits move on into the light is quite an age old practice. The easiest of it is achieved by complete spiritual belief in prayers or seances. This is done by praying to your guides or for those who are religious, pray to your version of a “God”. Its best to speak or think with your heart and not with mantras or incantations you barely understand. Your spirit helpers, guides and healers in the astral world (or emotional world) can read your emotions from your prayers even when you think it before they help these lost souls move on. However, if you have discovered your own psychic abilities and have overcome your fear of this unknown, you can assist them in a way as simple as you would help your friends move on in their troubled lives; through talk, empathy, listening, understanding and hope. Most of the time spirits don’t know that they are dead and need help to recognize this. They are just confused, lost and need love. When you feel they are ready, ask them to move into the light. Sometimes some may keep coming back for more help but this requires only additional patience & sensitive nurturing. If you would find yourself being drained, ask other spirit helpers or guides for assistance as well. This can be easily done through emotions and thoughts/prayers. All spirits, especially those seen as evil or bad, need help. Its up to you if you have it in you to help them. If not, no worries, there are plenty who constantly take up the part time task of making this place a more positive environment. There is plenty of reading material on-line on this subject. Google using “spirit assistance”
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~how to see a ghost or spirit~
Ghosts or spirits exist in the astral plane (synonyms: emotional realm, mental plane, ethereal). If you are in touch with your emotions, there is a good chance you can emotionally feel or see their presence (also known as extra sensory perception – ESP). Some appear as auras and some exactly as they might have appeared in the physical. Since we all have minds, it is but logical to be able to meet spirits in the mental plane (an area of debate with skeptics). Some say that you require your minds eye (ajna, third eye, 6th chakra) but it means the same as mind. For the most part, you would need to meditate regularly as a practice. This might also help heighten your physical senses bringing you to one or more of these states:
Clairvoyance: Heightened sense of sight
Clairaudience: Heightened sense of hearing
Clairgustance: Heightened sense of taste
Clairscent or Clairalience: Heightened sense of smell
Clairtangency or scrying: Heightened sense of touch
Clairsentience: Heightened sense of knowing how you feel
Clairempathy: Heightened sense of knowing how others feel
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~How to be a ghost or a spirit?~
You already are one since you possess a mind; but in the true sense of it all, please do a course in Vipassana to see the world like it is. This will help not just heighten your senses, but will also teach you how to have an out of body experience (astral projection). In this state, you will be completely conscious outside your physical body with abilities beyond experience. There are plenty of other courses available and I know some are taught by the International Academy of Consciousness and The Monroe Institute of Hemi Sync Research.
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~How do people become ghosts?~
Based on plain physical human knowledge, ghosts or spirits are the astral/emotional remains of what used to be the person in the human physical projection; but the reality is that the physical is just a temporary projection (or presence) to aid in learning the concepts of true satisfaction. The astral/spirit world is our real home and the astral body (mind), the real body. The physical plane is just a school of learning. We incarnate a number of times to complete our karmic tasks as students or teachers. You’d be surprised to know that you have many ghosts of your own past lives. These are normally termed as past life egos and predominantly take control of your life as you live this one out. Its easily noticeable especially when your behavior is out of control and you have no clue or realization on why you behaved so bad. Past Life Regressionists usually refer to these events as reliving emotions from your past life. Google on karmic groups for additional information or just read the book “Many Lives, Many Masters” by Dr. Brian Weiss.
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~Rituals to get rid of evil spirits~
Every ancient culture has it. There are incantations, incense sticks, yagnas or yajnas, candles, exorcisms, smudging with dried sage, cauldrons, silver bullets, crosses, herbs, etc, you name it. The rituals are aplenty, you can buy a mask in Africa or place a black dot or eye in India to ward off nazar or evil spirits. What I am about to say will be a bit far fetched if you haven’t researched the concepts of the consciousness, astral realms, out of body experiences or near death experiences. These rituals come from age old traditions that are active in universes other than our own physical universe. Within the astral realm, there are parallel worlds where souls live the same way we do. For them, their life is equally physical as we live ours but their laws of physics differ. Their laws may involve telekinesis or magic wands or communication like telepathy. These rituals we perform originate from those worlds. It comes to us through people from those worlds who incarnate into ours or from people who astral project into that realm. (Astral project is to put your mind into a form of trance which some people refer to as OBE or out of body experience. This projection, like they do in the movie Matrix while sitting in their chairs, helps you visit other worlds that we usually deem as fantasies. )
Within the physical realm, these rituals do no actual good except soothe your mind into a belief that everything is fine. Its important to note that the end goal is peace of mind and this can be achieved even without rituals. The next time you run around warding off spirits with symbols of religion in your hand or screaming prayers, do remember that there are simpler ways to help them leave; ask spirit guides for assistance or channel to them with positive thoughts and persistent empathy. I just hope that spirit is not related to you from your past or present life. It would be really tough if you would have to pay karmic debts by constantly or unwillingly helping them.
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how do ouija boards or seances (séances) work?
When spirits are called to answer questions using ouija boards or seances, in every case, the spirit is either hosted by one of the members pushing the planchette or the spirit assists in its movement. This person could temporarily pose as a spirit medium and in some selfish cases, spirits drains them out of their energies for days or months. If you jumped straight to this section, do read about the ‘human concerns on ghost’. For more on ouija, try Wikipedia.
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~what is paranormal?~
Anything outside the laws of physics is considered paranormal. The mind is one example of the paranormal even though we all have one and its quite normal. Minds do not follow laws of physics and hence poses a real problem for skeptics and researchers. Traditionally speaking, the paranormal is what cannot be physically sensed by majority of humans or physical instruments. Emotions are what I have found out that exists under the general categorization of paranormality. Ghosts, angels, demons etc are all minds with emotions and hence emotions itself. You won’t find this specific explanation anywhere online.
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~Skeptics: Spirits & Ghosts on Camera~
There are plenty of picture and video galleries available on-line where sightings have been displayed. But lets be honest, for skeptics, be it any skeptic, until they witness it in person to a convincing degree, they will not yield. Trusting other’s experience is something skeptics have not been able accept; its a fair justification. All afterlife experiences are meant to be personal and individualistic. Its a starting point to understanding that there is more beyond the everyday rut and to understand that you are not here by accident, that you have a purpose in this lifetime with karmic duties towards close friends and family. Spirit sightings are well meant to awaken these thoughts.
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But are they really visible on camera?
The answer is:
Only if they want to be seen in that way and know how to project into the physical. There are various reasons for why they may make their physical presence felt.

They are related to you in some way and trying to talk to you
A past life or current life karma with them could need closure
To awaken your curiosity about the afterlife
To have you question traditional dogmas and doctrines
To have you question gaps in science itself
To have you question life in its biggest picture
To ask the really big questions!

There are plenty of reasons and you need to find that specific one.

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~Physics and the Astral Realms~
First, the words astral, emotional, mental and ethereal are synonyms as per my research work. Not everyone may agree.
Ghosts/minds/spirits in general cannot be sensed by physical objects unless they project into the physical at will. When I say project, I mean making themselves available at physical frequencies detectable by physical instruments. All forms of physical instruments render useless if a spirit does not wish to be noticed. This is one of the main reasons that hunting the physical realm for something that is mental is always never accurate or reproduce-able. The emotional or mental realm can only be accurately researched using mental or emotional means.

Further Reading:
Here’s a link to Paranormal Terminology & thanks to a reader: a link to more terminology @ psychic-junkie.com

Here’s another one on how to spot a fake psychic. and one on the 5 Biggest Mistakes when selecting a Psychic